Hospitality is a true form of friendliness. Take advantage of this by offering something to your new acquaintance that will help them feel at ease.
This could be anything, really. For example, maybe you’re at a conference, and the person sitting next to you discovers their pen is dried out. Offer them one of yours!
Or, if you’re going to get something to drink, ask if you can bring anything back for them.
These are small gestures, but they make an impression that won’t soon be forgotten.
8. Pose a challenge
If you want to show your spunky side, get people talking in a group setting by posing an interesting challenge.
You could say you’re collecting opinions on a specific topic, and ask a “this or that” question. Conversations start when people start taking sides.
Other ideas include making playful “bets” or asking a thought-provoking question that inspires strong opinions.
Just keep things low-key, and enjoy where the conversation leads!
9. Ask for advice or expertise
Once you find out a few things about the person you just met, find a way to ask them for their advice about something.
This is as good as giving a compliment because it shows that you recognize (and value) their expertise on a particular topic.
Plus, chances are, it’s something they feel confident talking about. And as we’ll discuss next, that’s exactly what you want!
10. Get them talking
Your most important objective when breaking the ice is to find a way to get the other person talking. Achieve this by asking them questions about themselves.
While the first few questions might be somewhat mundane (such as, “what do you do?” or “read any good books lately?”), the end goal is to find something to latch onto that leads to a more interesting conversation.